Not your average G.I. Joe: Framingham man triumphed over adversity
When Joe Press arrived at Cushing Hospital in 1945, the Army Air Corpsman, paralyzed in a diving accident in France, was told he might live another five years.
Instead, he launched an import-export business from his hospital bed and enriched his adopted hometown in countless ways before his death Wednesday at age 95.
“If there was a theme for what people could learn from his life, it would be not to let adversity get you down,” John Kahn, a former selectman and longtime friend, said of Press. “The wheelchair was the first thing you noticed and the first thing you forgot. It neither confined him nor defined him.”
Press “inspired me and so many others to do what’s right and what’s needed, even if those paths are filled with obstacles,” said Marc Jacobs, chief executive officer of Jewish Family Service of MetroWest. “Joe has been my hero.”
Press was a strong financial supporter of Jewish Family Services but also invested his time in the organization, including teaching English as a second language to Russian and Latin American immigrants.
“He was a great teacher (who) became my friend, then became my client,” said Justo Rasareo, a home health aide. As well as teaching him the language, “he gave me a lot of good values. I learned a lot of things from his friendship, from the work he was doing.
“Mr. Press was a very important person,” and yet he was “the most humble person I’ve ever known.”
“Everyone’s dad is amazing,” said daughter Addy Press, but “my dad was one of those people who enriched someone’s life just by an encounter with them. He was just the most positive person you could encounter. He completely embraced life.”
“So much of what I was able to accomplish I owe to Cushing Hospital,” Joe Press said at a 2004 ceremony at the former hospital site.
He spent six years at the veterans hospital and made so many friends in the community he decided to make Framingham his home.
He met his wife, Lucy, when she answered an advertisement he placed for a housekeeper. They were married for more than 40 years.
“She was by his side through it all,” said Addy Press. “They did it all together.”
He ran a successful mail-order business, Chairborn Associates, in a time when “there wasn’t much accommodation for handicaps,” said his daughter, and “part and parcel of his success (was making sure) a significant part went to charity.”
He was interested in education for all, and looked for opportunities to help, she said. “He appreciated the fact that sometimes people need an extra hand to accomplish wonderful things.”
He supported the Girls for Success program of the Haifa Foundation in Israel as well as programs at Woodrow Wilson Elementary School in Framingham, sponsored scholarships at area high schools and helped a Cambodian family who came to the United States to escape the Khmer Rouge.
In 2006, the Lucy and Joe Food Pantry was established to honor the family’s long tradition of giving, inspired by the example of Press’ Russian immigrant parents in New Haven, Conn.
“From the moment in his childhood that Joe’s mom had him deliver bread to those without food and treat them with dignity, Joe cared about others in need,” Jacobs said.
Press cared about treating all people with dignity, including the German prisoners of war who did maintenance and housekeeping chores at Cushing Hospital.
“He didn’t like that some of the patients talked badly to the Germans,” said Nick Paganella, a longtime veterans activist who worked with Press for the Cushing commemoration in 2004.
Press helped form the Framingham Interfaith Council in 1977.
“He was a remarkable man,” said Wayland resident Gil Aliber, who was one of the regulars at Press’ weekly Wednesday discussion groups, and, even into his 90s, “he always wanted to learn.”
“He had a very rich life,” said Addy Press.
In addition to his wife and daughter, Press leaves his grandchildren, Noah Isaac Soilson and Rebecca Kate Soilson. He took part in Rebecca’s recent bat mitzvah.
A funeral service will be held today at noon at Temple Beth Sholom, 50 Pamela Road.
Donations in his memory may be made to Jewish Family Service of MetroWest, 475 Franklin St., Suite 101, Framingham 01702; Friends of Yad Sarah, 450 Park Ave., New York, NY 10022; or the Temple Beth Sholom Rabbi’s Fund.